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  • What you must do before you catch feelings.

    The stage where you grow feelings which may or may not lead to a relationship, is like a coin with two sides to it. The first being the things to do before feelings set in, and the other, the things you do after feelings has set in. The concern of this article is for the things to be done by anyone before feelings set in. Are you ready? Let’s go.

    Listing a hundred number of things may be exhausting and too much to grab and you sure won’t want to be bored with too much details which is why I’ve coined all factors to examine before giving room for feelings to set in, into these three-letter-worded sentence “TAKE YOUR TIME”.

    As you would concur, time is the best examiner one can ever use to access every form of human conduct. Be it commitment, honesty, trust as well as love itself. You should endeavour to do the following while taking your time.

    BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT FRIENDSHIP. This stage of friendship will enable you to discover some very salient characteristics of any person because of course, you both will relate with each other with no strings attached. You will agree with me that being friend with someone you’ve not grown feelings for is much easier than someone to whom you already got attached to. It is a stage where you’ll discover if someone fits in to your definition of compatibility. The knowledge of these traits and features are best known before feelings set in other than when feelings eventually do.

    Isn’t it closeness that births feelings? Yes, absolutely. It is very possible for two opposite sex with some level of closeness to develop feelings for each other along the line. However, understanding yourself and the other person in terms of values, beliefs, mindsets, philosophies and line of thoughts, will guard your heart against deeper attachment and as such will quench the feelings in no time.

    If feelings set in and it’s not a good idea to date such a person due to what you’ve known, you’ve saved yourself from getting involved in a kind of situation-ship where you’ll have to struggle ypur way through making it work. You won’t find yourself dating someone you know has anger issues and is not ready to change. You won’t find yourself dating someone whose beliefs are not far from that of an atheist. And most importantly, you won’t dwell much in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way for you.

    Beautiful friendship doesn’t just produce beautiful relationship, but also prevents bad situation-ship.

    Friendship as a factor before relationship is not so much discussed and the earlier the world gets this right, the better it is.

    Now that you’ve known this, I’m sure you won’t want your friend to miss out on this post. Kindly do share to as many as possible. Let’s get it right with love together. If you read it up to this point, send a dm to me here https://wa.link/7nliw5 for your Christmas 🎁.

    Love from Psalmmy.

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  • “Heal” before you chop breakfast!

    How hard was it?

    Have you heard of this saying: “Ignorance is a disease”? If you agree with that, then you’ll also agree that we all need to be healed from the diseases of “what we don’t know”. What’s my point? If before you enter into a relationship, you don’t know what you ought to know, then you’re suffering from a disease which you need to heal from. Just that this type of healing only requires knowledge and preparedness. Here is the thing, there are levels to heart-breaks as well as healing when it comes to relationship with our loved ones.

    Your knowledge and preparedness before entering a relationship will determine how hard a disappointing or heart-breaking situation will hit you in the relationship. It will as well determine how prepared your heart is for the possible worst that may happen.

    Let me give you an instance. Everyone must understand that each person is a product of their pasts and one of the vital things which must be done at the earliest stage in a relationship is to share your pasts with your partner. Now imagine someone without this knowledge who jumps into a relationship and discovers a terrible thing his/her partner did in the past. What do you think will happen? This person obviously didn’t have what will help him or her to digest the situation and most of the times, because of his/her ignorance, such may blame the other person for having such a horrible past. But wait, it’s the past o, should anyone be blamed for having a horrible past? like really?… Don’t you think this healing is much more necessary than the one to come?

    How strong you built your heart will determine how hard it will be broken👌

    This disease called ignorance is the bedrock of what causes most of the heart-breaks we experience. It’s hard to accept though, but people desire to enter into relationships much more than they desire knowledge about being in relationship. There is no doubt about the fact that some human beings are so frustrating, irresponsible, unfaithful and all that but then, it all comes down to our pre-relationship activities. What made you choose? What made you accept his proposal? Are you equipped yourself? There is this saying that “if I’m asked to use one year to cut down a big tree with a cutlass, I will use 8 months in sharpening the cutlass”. What about a lifetime decision you wanna make? How many years are you willing to sharpen your heart in preparation? Think about it🤔🤔🤔. Some things will never meet you unexpected only if you have an idea of them possibly coming. How will you get this idea? Knowledge! Knowledge they say is power. In all our getting, let’s get knowledge.

    “Get it right with love” is a platform you can always come to for more knowledge on how to get it right in your relationship. There are also books, audio messages and videos on relationship. Go all out there for knowledge. If you are in a relationship already, it’s never too late. Keep learning! It will only help you and your relationship get better. Always remember that how strong you built your heart will determine how hard it will be broken. Do well to heal before you’re served breakfast!!!

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  • “YOU” when it comes to love.

    How did you blush when you were first told ‘I love you? “

    What does the word “you” mean in the context of love? Is it just the second person you or something else is attached? Is there a deeper meaning to this word or it’s just that shallow as people do say it? Hey! I love you and the usual response, I love you too/more. What does this you really mean?

    The word “you” represents a second person. That is, someone you are referring to. To connect it together we can say, by saying I love you, we say, I love this person. You in the context of love is not just the physical person standing in front of us, or someone somewhere afar us, or someone we met on the social media, or someone in our illumination or even in our dreams or probably a newspaper or movie, anywhere we may think of. It is far beyond the physical or spiritual existence of the other person.

    You in the context of love contains the spirit, soul and body, experiences, mindsets, thoughts, choice of words, successes, failures, goals, aspirations, past, present and future of a person. Does that sound familiar to you? Maybe yes. This is why you can’t claim to love someone and deny any of these aforementioned features of such person.

    So the next time you say I love you to your partner, be conscious of the fact that you are claiming to love everything that makes up him or her. But the question is, are you ready to love everything that makes up him or her? Can you stand his pasts?

    Look out for more tips on getting it right with love on this platform. You have any questions drop it in the comment box. It will go a long way in knowing how best to satisfy you with our contents.

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